This post will come off as unempathic to the homeless situation in America. But I am writing this from experience of working at day center, where many individuals there are experiencing poverty, homelessness, addictions, and suffering in various areas in their lives. Some of the people I interact with, are actually down in their luck.
One thing I have learned about working at this day center is when someone is down on their luck, their attitudes will be different, and they more than likely will not have issues of entitlement in their behaviors.
Prior to working here, I use to be very VERY naive into thinking that there needs to be more services and non-profit organizations available for people experiencing poverty and homelessness. Until I begin to work for this non-profit organization. Working here, I immediately begin to realize, this non-proft orgnaization is pepetuating the homelessness situation and that we are serving reprobates. When and where in the bible, or God had ever said that we must be empathic and serve reprobates? When have God ever said that we need to show empathy to someone who will never seek change, and change their behavior and how they treat others? When have God ever said, take care of our abusers so they could continue to abuse others and treat others like crap. Just to never experience the consequences just because they could continue living their life like that because such non-profit organizations will always be there, providing for some of these reprobates?
So, why have my perception of the situaiton begin? Well, first off it is because I have worked here for a very short time, but have been yelled at more times than I ever had been yelled at in my adult years. I am currently 26 years young, and for me to get yelled at, or experience some form of aggression, or members at this facility to attempt to take advantage of me being a new employee here. Has occured so many times, more than I can count.
Getting to the nitty gritty of the situation. One thing I have noticed about a lot of members here are their attitudes. Working with this population; their attitudes are disgusting. If these people do not get their way, or get what they want. They will escalate, threaten you, are begin to murmur and complain against you. Then play the victim when they get barred, or banned from the facility. Some of these people steal from one another, or try to take material at the facility.
This non-profit organization provide cool area for the day, or a warm environment for the members during the winter months. They are provided free food, showers, able to do their laundry without having to pay for laundry detergent. The non-profit organization provides t-shirts, underwear, socks, handwarmers, emergency blankets, cat food, dog food, toothbursh, toothpaste, feminine hygeine products, condoms, and the list continues to go on and on to what this organization provides.
However, when some of these members do not get their way, they become upset with the non-profit organization. If we run out of things for them, they begin to become upset and project their negativity onto the members there because of their individual negative experiences.
Some members become upset that they have to wait for showers, and believe they are entitled to take a shower, or do laundry, instead of waiting patiently on the shower and laundry list. There is a list that we have, first come first serve. Some members believe they are entitled to by pass all of the other members on the list and beg and plead to be the first ones on the list. If they do not get their way, they begin to murmur and complain at the service desk workers.
What am I saying here? What I am saying here is that it is naive to go out of your way and believe you are going to make a change to the homeless situation. I am not saying, to promote classism. But what I am saying is to view the person you are interacting with and exmaine the full and greater picture of their sitaution. To understand why they are there in the first place.
What I am trying to say here is that many of the homeless people that come to this non-profit organization are narcissist, reprobates, and sociopaths. These people are not worthy of empathy.
Anyone who has experienced narcisisstic abuse, or abuse on any level or form. Would not have empathy for the individual, unless they become reflective, and begin to seek change and begin to dilligently challenge their attitudes and beliefs. And begin to work on improvements.
Many of these people experiencing homeless do not believe in this. Many do not begin to work on changing their attitudes. Then begin to play the victim when they experience a backlash from their negative attitudes.
It is ignorant and naive to have empathy for anyone, who is persistant in the negativity, and expecting them to change. Or expecting services to be provided for them, only for them to exploit the system; in a sense, that they are using the system to make an excuse to not change their circumstances. All to avoid handling responsibility in their lives.
I use to believe God was cruel, mean, and unempathic to people experiencing homelessness. Until I begin to work here. Working here I clearly and quickly begin to see the bigger picture. That many of the members here are actual reprobates. Reprobates are dangerous and illogical. They rely on dumping their rage and frustrations on others in life when they do not get what they want, and when they are unable to recieve any form of ease in their life. Anything outside of ease for the reporbate, means they cannot handle it and will destroy anyone or anything in his or her path, for not receiving that relief they are seeking. Which is one major reason why the reprobate is dangerous.
Non-profit organizations such as the one I am currently employed at, rely on reprobates, or people unwilling to reflect and change their ways. To stay in business. I say this because if that was not the case and many of the people there were actually down on their luck. Then non-profit organizations will be down on their luck.
You could argue that someone suffering from an addiction or mental illness could be the reason for this attitude and behavior. You could argue their negative experiences could be the reason for it. You could even argue that childhood trauma is the reason behind it.
But isn’t that the same argument we use to disarm abusive individuals? Yes, all of that maybe true. But what is not true is to believe that these issues are an excuse, for these individuals. To treat people like crap. Perhaps people were willing to assist them, until they realize who they were dealing with and decided they wanted no more part in dealing with these individuals in the first place.